Judy Field

Counselling in Harrogate, North Yorkshire


The Art of Letting Go: Coping Strategies for Navigating the Loss of a Friendship

27 April 2023

Friendship is one of the most important and fulfilling relationships in our lives. We rely on our friends to be there for us through thick and thin, to share in our joys and support us in our sorrows. But what happens when a friendship ends, whether through a disagreement, growing apart, or simply losing touch? Coping with the loss of a friendship can be just as difficult as dealing with a romantic breakup, and it can leave us feeling lost, alone, and confused.

Here are some coping strategies for navigating the loss of a friendship:

Allow yourself to grieve

Just like any other loss, it's important to allow yourself to grieve the end of a friendship. This might involve crying, talking to others about your feelings, or simply taking some time to be alone and process your emotions.

Practice self-care

It's easy to neglect our own self-care when we're going through a difficult time, but taking care of ourselves is more important than ever. Make sure you're getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

Seek support from others

It can be helpful to talk to others about what you're going through, whether it's a trusted friend, family member, or counsellor. Sometimes just sharing your feelings can help you feel less alone and more validated.

Identify the reasons for the breakup

Try to reflect on what led to the end of the friendship. Did you have a falling out over a particular issue? Did your lives simply go in different directions? Understanding the reasons behind the breakup can help you gain closure and move forward.

Focus on the positive memories

While it's natural to feel sad about the end of a friendship, it's also important to remember the positive memories you shared. Remind yourself of the happy times you spent together, and try to focus on the good that came out of the friendship.

Let go of anger and resentment

Feelings of anger or resentment towards a friend who has hurt you are perfectly normal, but holding onto these feelings will only cause you more pain in the long run. Try to let go of these negative emotions and focus on moving forward in a positive way.

Practice forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful tool for healing, and it can help you let go of negative emotions and move on from the end of a friendship. This doesn't mean you have to reconcile with your former friend, but it does mean letting go of any grudges and negative feelings you may be holding onto.

Remember, the end of a friendship is never easy, but it's a natural part of life. By practicing self-care, seeking support from others, and focusing on positive memories, you can navigate this difficult time and emerge stronger and more resilient.

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I am able to offer day, evening and weekend appointments, subject to availability. My final appointment time on an evening is 8pm, Monday to Thursday and 7pm on a Friday.


Monday: 8am to 9pm

Tuesday: 8am to 9pm

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