Judy Field

Counselling in Harrogate, North Yorkshire


The Power of Closure: Finding Peace After the End of a Friendship

27 June 2023

Friendships hold a special place in our lives, offering support, laughter, and shared experiences. However, sometimes friendships come to an end, leaving us with a sense of loss and unanswered questions. In these moments, finding closure becomes crucial for our emotional well-being. In this blog post, we will explore the power of closure and how it can help you find peace after the end of a friendship.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

When a friendship ends, it is essential to acknowledge the range of emotions you may be experiencing. Allow yourself to feel sadness, anger, or confusion without judgment. Recognise that it is normal to grieve the loss of a meaningful connection and that your feelings are valid.

Reflect on the Friendship

Take some time to reflect on the friendship and its ending. Consider what led to its end and any patterns or dynamics that may have contributed to the rift. Reflecting on the relationship can help you gain insight into what worked and what didn’t, aiding your personal growth and informing future friendships.

Acceptance of the Situation

Acceptance is a powerful tool in finding closure. While it may be challenging to accept the end of a friendship, acknowledging that it is a natural part of life can help you find peace. Understand that people change, circumstances shift, and friendships sometimes run their course. Embracing acceptance can free you from the pain of holding on to something that no longer serves you.

Seek Closure Through Communication

If possible, consider seeking closure through open and honest communication. Express your feelings, concerns, and any unresolved issues you may have. While this may not always be feasible or productive, it can provide a sense of closure and allow for a more graceful ending to the friendship.

Letting Go and Moving Forward

Closure often involves letting go of attachments and embracing the possibility of new beginnings. Allow yourself to release any lingering resentment or bitterness. Focus on self-care, nurturing your other relationships, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. By shifting your energy towards positive experiences, you create space for healing and growth.

Embrace Self-Reflection and Growth

Use the experience of the friendship’s end as an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Ask yourself what you have learned from the friendship and how it has shaped you. This introspection can lead to valuable insights, helping you establish healthier boundaries and make wiser choices in future relationships.
Remember, closure is a personal journey, and the timeline for finding it varies for each individual. Be patient with yourself as you navigate the process, allowing yourself to heal at your own pace.

The end of a friendship does not diminish the value of the connection or the positive experiences you shared. By finding closure, you open yourself up to new possibilities and create space for fulfilling and enriching relationships in the future.

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Opening Hours

I am able to offer day, evening and weekend appointments, subject to availability. My final appointment time on an evening is 8pm, Monday to Thursday and 7pm on a Friday.


Monday: 8am to 9pm

Tuesday: 8am to 9pm

Wednesday: 8am to 9pm

Thursday: 8am to 9pm

Friday: 8am to 8pm

Saturday: 8am to 2pm

Sunday: Closed