28th March 2022
When someone close to us dies, I understand that it can feel like nothing will make things better. Grieving always takes time, and must be done in your own way. As a bereavement counsellor in Harrogate and online who has worked in this area for many years, however, I know that this particular time of year – the coming of spring – can have some real therapeutic benefits for people who are grieving after a loss. And so, if you are struggling in the wake of someone dying, here are three ways being outside can help.
Connect More to the Present
It can be easy for your mind to go in circles after losing someone. This was especially the case last winter, with more COVID-19 restrictions and nasty weather keeping people firmly indoors. I understand how hard this can be; bereavement makes it difficult to live in the present moment. Being in nature, however, can take you away from that ruminating state. Walking through nature, along with being good for your circulation and breathing, brings you back to the here and now, thereby freeing you of the same thought patterns that reinforce your state of grief.
Be With Others
The coming of spring brings with it more opportunities to socialise with others outdoors, which is so important for anyone’s mental wellbeing. You may not feel like being with others all the time, and that’s okay. However, the arrival of warmer weather creates different avenues for socialising that weren’t there in the winter: walks through the park, barbecues, various sports and activities, and so on. These social activities are another way to bring you back into the present and focus on others for a period of time, as opposed to always worrying about yourself.
Try New Things
Trying new activities and hobbies over the winter isn’t as easy – especially when you are grieving. But the warmer weather opens up a number of different routes for doing something new. Many bereaved people take up gardening, for example, as this process of nurturing life can feel incredibly healing. In general, the act of taking up something new, whatever it may be, creates a feeling of wellbeing. It brings you away from the harmful thought patterns that informed your grieving process over the winter and creates a different landscape in your mind. Having something that interests and excites you – something you look forward to doing – is so important for anyone, not just people who are grieving.
Are you going through a difficult time right now due to a painful loss? If so, I am here to provide the safe, confidential space you need to work through these emotions with bereavement counselling in Harrogate and online. Feel free to give me a call or email at any time.